The partner is often aware of the "other" and accepts the arrangement willingly or reluctantly. However in modern western cultures, the discovery of an affair often leads to a marital crisis. The literature about the crisis of affairs seems to consistently indicate that couples go through certain quite predictable phases in dealing with affairs. Following are the descriptions of certain phases that many couples go through when dealing with the crisis of a marital affair.
Despite this increase in female adultery, it is in some degree due to the attitudes changing toward sex and sexuality, but Steinbock thinks that people should use rational justification to evaluate the disapproval of adultery. First, Steinbock makes her essay strong by transparently stating that adultery contradicts moral principles because it involves promise-breaking and lying.
In the other words, a promise of sexual fidelity is pertaining to sex and romantic love. Since the moral principles are obeyed and believed by most people in our society, adultery should be banned, unacceptable, and thought to be immoral in most cases.
Steinbock argues against adultery through a moral approach which meets the mainstream values of our society and should be considered as a strong part of her essay.
In addition, besides talking about the strong part of her essay, the weak parts of her essay should also be reviewed. Hence, adultery is not banned universally because adultery is a private matter.
Here, Steinbock commits the fallacy of equivocation which means a word shifts from its meaning from one premise to another. The word adultery shifts its meaning from a criminal offense to a private matter in the same argument.
Such a change of meaning always makes an argument invalid and makes the argument unbelievable. Additionally, in the same section, Steinbock denies that practical considerations such as unwanted pregnancies and venereal disease can be used against adultery because not only does adultery face the risk of unwanted pregnancies and venereal disease, but it will also include all non-exclusive sex.
This argument is also invalid because the premise does not intend to support its conclusion. Stating the risks adultery and non-exclusive sex will all face does not prove that the risks themselves are not harmful and cannot be used against adultery.
On the contrary, for example, venereal diseases are serious illnesses that require treatment. Some venereal diseases such as HIV cannot be cured and may be deadly.
Therefore, if Steinbock wants to prove that the risks such as venereal disease are not reasons for opposing adultery, she needs to provide more reasonable evidence to support her conclusion.
Otherwise, it will be difficult to make readers believe what she has written. Then the lack of concern and the desire to cause pain will lead to a lack of love. The fallacy of slippery slope is clearly presented here.
Although sexual infidelity may to some degree to be a sign of the lack of love, there is no good reason to think that committing sexual infidelity will actually and finally result in the lack of love. For instance, a married female sex worker may still love her spouse.
She sells sex which is mainly due to a financial issue. She makes money by selling sex to support her family and her spouse. Definitely, the answer is no. The author commits selective attention here. She looks at sexual fidelity as the ideal in relationship only through an emotional and psychological way but ignores nonexistent emotional and psychological aspects.
This seriously limits the application of her argument. She defends the value of fidelity on a particular ideal of married love that depends on what it means to love someone comprehensively and deeply.
I do agree with the author that we should treat adultery as an immoral behavior in general, and adultery should not be condoned. However, failing to check all possible evidence and then saying that adultery is wrong is not much help when it comes to specific cases.
By contemplating adultery is mainly caused by having an extramarital affair, Steinbock neglects and fails to check other possible reasons that may cause adultery. This makes the application of her argument toward adultery not comprehensive and limited. Hence, based on my opinion, we should evaluate adultery based on all possible reasons.
Although adultery is immoral in most cases, we should understand and forgive adultery in some special cases. This does not mean that I commit or encourage adultery.
I am just saying that under some special situations, it is possible that one may have reasonable rationale to commit adultery. His or her adultery should be forgiven and understandable in such a case, and three strategies espouse my opinion. For example, one reason for prostitution is money.
Some married female sex workers sell sex because they need money to support their families or spouses their spouses may not have jobs or any income. In this situation, selling sex is a kind of adultery for those married female sex workers which involves sexual infidelity toward their spouses.
However, their adultery may be forgiven because without providing sexual service, these sex workers may not earn enough money to support their families. The purpose for committing adultery in this case is to provide financial support.
This is a good reason to compromise moral principles.Philosophy of Love and Sex. Description. N/A. Total Cards.
Subject. Philosophy. Level. Undergraduate 2. Created. adultery is wrong when it breaks a promise and involves deception, but not otherwise Term. According to Bonnie Steinbock, adultery is what?
Definition. violates an ideal of romantic love: Term. According to Wasserstrom. Adultery to Steinbock is more or less a “private matter” (pg. , What’s Wrong?). Homosexuality is defined as those that are sexually attracted to the same sex.
Homosexuality is defined as those that are sexually attracted to the same sex. Philosophy of Love and Sex; Shared Flashcard Set. Details. Title. Philosophy of Love and Sex According to Bonnie Steinbock, adultery is what? Definition. violates an ideal of romantic love: Term. According to Wasserstrom, in so-called "open marriages" adulter is: Definition.
not morally wrong: Term. Steinbock says that "two main reasons. Bonnie Steinbock thinks that although adultery is not immoral, remaining faithful is an ideal we should all strive for.
Why does she think this? Sex is an intimate and affectionate act, and so engaging in extramarital sex might threaten the strength of .
From Bonnie Steinbock’s () “Adultery” In any event, they offer merely pragmatic, as opposed to moral, objections. If adultery is wrong, it does not become.
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